Anger Problems

Anger is a normal human emotion that we all feel at some point in our lives and in most cases it does not cause any harm.

However, some people seem to be unable to control their anger or become angry at seemingly trivial situations, and this is when it can become problematic.

People typically experience anger when they feel like:

  • They are powerless to decide things for themselves.
  • They are being treated unfairly and badly.
  • They are being threatened.
  • They are not being respected.
  • They are being misunderstood.

In general terms, people ‘vent’ their anger in one of two ways, either (1) outwardly onto other people or external situations, or (2) inwardly onto themselves in what we might think of as ‘self-blame’.

Uncontrolled Anger

People who have anger problems may find that they experience anger with increasing frequency and begin to lose control over their reactions to what might otherwise be “normal” events.

If anger does get out of control it can often lead to serious problems with family, friends, colleagues and sometimes create conflict with the Law, especially if anger spills over into violent behaviour.

Mental health surveys suggest that a third of adults are aware that they can often experience “unexpected anger” and just as many know someone who has an anger problem.

Health Problems Related to Anger

Uncontrolled anger has been shown to be linked with the following conditions:

  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • High blood pressure
  • Migraines and headaches
  • Insomnia and sleep problems
  • Eczema and other skin problems
  • Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS)
  • Depression
  • Heart Problems

Suppressed or bottled-up Anger could lead to the following:

  • Self-harming
  • Alcohol and drink-related problems
  • Drug abuse
  • Low self-esteem
  • Low self-confidence

Each of the above problems can have serious consequences on the quality of your life so its important to tackle any anger management problems you have sooner rather than later.

Anger and the Locus of Control

The Locus of Control is a concept that was developed by Dr. Julian Rotter in 1954 and is still used widely throughout the psychological community today.

It is, in essence, the degree to which people believe that it is themselves, rather than external forces, that determine how they feel and behave in terms of determining outcomes.

In very simple terms, the Locus of Control is described as being either ‘internal’ when people believe that the decisions and choices that they make have the most influence or ‘external’ when people believe that their own will and determination are unable to influence outcomes.

In this sense, the Locus of Control is governed by the core beliefs and meanings that people attribute to events.

This means that people either become angry because other people or situations MAKE them angry (external attribution) or people get angry because of how they MAKE SENSE of what other people say or do (internal attribution).

The concept of the Locus of Control is also closely related to the central ideas of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy which states that individual interpretations of events are what lead to feelings and NOT what actually happened.

Overcoming Anger Problems

One of the keys to overcoming anger problems is to recognise that people have a choice about how to interpret and subsequently respond to those things that they believe ’cause’ anger in themselves.

By learning how to develop a more internal Locus of Control and appreciating the mechanisms by which people create emotional responses, people can learn to be much more in control of their reactions.

The CORE Programme

The CORE Programme was devised and written by Paul in 2020 and combines all the best elements of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy with additional knowledge drawn from research in Personal Construct Theory, Attribution Theory, Self-Determination Theory and Social Constructivism.

It is particularly useful for anger management problems as it helps people to develop a more internal Locus of Control as well as addressing how people create emotional experiences through their own subjective understandings.

It is a 10 module course normally taken over a 10 week period with weekly hour long counselling sessions (either face-to-face or using Zoom), but can also be followed as a ‘teach yourself’ course for those with more manageable levels of anxiety.

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During this consultation we will discuss your particular problems and the potential solutions in a safe and confidential environment without you having to commit to any counselling programmes or sessions going forward.

It is our view that not only do you need to decide whether the Lee Psychology approach suits who you are and what you have been through, but also whether or not you feel you will be able to work effectively with us as individuals.

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